“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be?” ~Marianne Williamson
My goal as a psychotherapist is to help you experience greater aliveness, peace of mind, and clarity about your life individually and in relationship with others. I will support you in your healing process as well as in learning skills and taking actions that increase your happiness and help you create a meaningful and thriving life. I will help you feel connected and understood as you make changes toward an increased sense of well-being.
I specialize in working with couples and individuals who want to heal and improve their intimate relationships. My primary approach is Gottman Method couple therapy, based on 35 years of studies on relationships across their life course. I use assessment tools that help identify the specific problems and the strengths in a relationship. I use Gottman Method interventions that have been used for 30 years that are based on the research. I also apply skills and tools from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). EFT tools can guide a distressed couple away from negative and rigid responses toward more flexible and sensitive responses that will strengthen their emotional bond and build a secure attachment to one another.
I provide psychotherapy for individuals not currently involved in an emotionally close relationship or whose partner does not want to participate in couple therapy. I use the same relational lens and some of the same research-based tools as I do when working with couples.
How We Will Work Together
My approach is relationally oriented, which means that I believe people are best understood within the context of their social environment. I primarily focus on the present and future, although I address the past as it is comes up in the therapeutic process.
I use the following research-based tools:
Gottman Method Therapy: Using Gottman Method Couples Therapy tools, I help you manage conflict, build friendship and intimacy, and create shared meaning together. See http://www.gottman.com for more information.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): Using EFT tools, I help you repair attachment injuries, build secure bonds, and create new ways of relating in close relationships that move you from feelings of isolation to connectedness. See http://www.iceeft.com for more information.
Positive Psychology: Using Positive Psychology tools, I help you recognize your strengths and virtues that can make you more functional, happier, and better. The science of Positive Psychology assumes people are basically healthy, resourceful, and motivated to grow and is focused on promoting an individual or group to flourish.
Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR): Using EMDR reprocessing protocols, I will help you reprocess traumatic or disturbing life experiences, relieving many types of psychological stress (such as anxiety) and helping you integrate these experiences in an adaptive manner. Using EMDR resource building protocols, I will help you strengthen and integrate internal resources so that you can call on them when needed. For more information, see http://www.emdria.org.
Focusing: Using Focusing tools, I will help you develop self awareness as a way of paying attention to issues in your life and facilitating them to shift in a forward direction. I will guide you in this process of listening to your inner self in an accepting way, learning to hear the messages that it is sending you. See http://www.focusing.org for more information.
Solution-Focused Brief Therapy: Using Solution-Focused Brief Therapy tools, I help you achieve your goals by focusing on solutions rather than the cause of problems.
The Therapeutic Relationship
The relationship between us is central to facilitating change and growth. I strive to make therapy a safe, caring, confidential, nonjudgmental, and healing place where you can fully express yourself and feel understood.
I offer an initial phone consultation so we can determine whether we are a good fit. You can pay by check, cash, or credit card at each visit. I am a network provider for Aetna, Blue Cross Blue Shield (including Anthem and Federal Employee Program) and EMI Health. If I am not a network provider with your insurance plan, I will be glad to provide you with an invoice at the end of each month so you can request reimbursement for out-of-network services.
My office is located in Salt Lake City, Utah close to the downtown area.